October marks Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. Over the course of this month, I’ll feature a series of posts dedicated to this month. It’s a bittersweet month for me. Sweet because it’s my birthday month, bitter because I’m reminded of my lost babies (not that I ever forget them).
Today, we’ll talk about how to cope with sudden pregnancy and infant loss. While there are different ways to cope, I’ll share a few that have helped me with my losses.
- Do not blame yourself. This is not your fault. You did everything you could under the circumstances given.
- Do not blame others, unless it’s necessary. When I say necessary, I mean there are certain circumstances where another person is the direct cause of your pregnancy and infant loss. Most of the time, it is an event that no one could have foreseen.
- Laugh. If something is funny, laugh! It’ll help you.
- Cry. Have a big one. I mean a big, ugly cry. It’ll make you feel tons better.
- Journal or seek therapy. You’re dealing with postpartum depression and PTSD.
- Say your angel’s name. Recognize and acknowledge your angel, even if no one else does.
I hope this has helped you some. The next post will talk about how to deal when other people don’t acknowledge your loss.