Don’t be alarmed. We’re not getting divorced nor are we separated.
Now that you’ve calmed down (and hopefully you’ve stopped sharpening your pitchfork at me), let me explain: Maks is traveling to Ukraine for the next two weeks. Therefore, I’ll be taking on duties as Mommy and Daddy.
My husband provides tremendously for the family – bills, rent, and even some of my bills are paid because of him. He pays for everything, while I do the heavy lifting around the house in terms of cooking, cleaning, and raising Bear (and Sushi!).
Yet, it’s only when my husband is not here I realize how much of the work he actually does at home. You see, we don’t have roles between us. In the course of our relationship, we’ve had fluid roles – sometimes I was the breadwinner, sometimes he was the chef and maid.
When Bear arrived, our roles changed but I’m not a typical SAHM. I work from home and to raise a child, run a household, and have a career (while contemplating starting another), can be quite exhausting. Whenever I have a book release or another project, Maks picks up the slack and does everything to ensure I stay focus on my work.
Now he’s not here and it’s a bit…weird.
I’m used to Maks being gone during the day because of his career. It’s late at night when it’s just me and Bear in our family bed that I realize, ‘Hey, we’re missing somebody.’ And it’s a weird feeling.
These upcoming two weeks will be the longest I’ve ever gone not seeing Maks in the course of our entire relationship and it’s new to me. At first I was daunted by it – would I be okay? Would Bear be okay? Could I handle doing everything Maks does?
Right now, it’s Day 3 of Maks’s trip and so far, so good. I’ve been catching up on housework, finally using my planner, and most importantly, been keeping Bear busy. We just enrolled him into a soccer clinic and well, for a three-year-old, it’ll go as well as you would expect, LOL. But he’s having fun and that’s all that matters!
I have to admit, on the real, this experiment of Maks being gone has made me appreciate what actual single mothers go through on a regular basis. They’re the Mommy, Daddy, Provider, Chef, Chauffeur, Maid, Disciplinarian, Mechanic, Cat-Wrangler, Snuggles-Thief, Hair Pats and Back Rubs experts. I salute you!
Here are some photos from Bear’s first soccer clinic yesterday. Even though it was a struggle to get him to play, when he did, he had a blast!