An update of sorts…

I’m so sorry for the lack of posts here. With the past holiday weekend and what have you, I just haven’t had any time! But now I do, so let’s get busy –

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Just a friendly reminder – I am speaking at the MixedRemixed Festival this year! I’ll be speaking on the panel regarding Parenting with Difference: Multiracial and Families of Transracial Adoption in Conversation. So, if you’re in the L.A. area, come swing by! I would love to see you and you can meet my family! Please register at www.mixedremixed.org because spaces are filling up very quickly!

Bear & Bae:

This past weekend, we went to another one of hub-hub’s photo meets. Here are some pics of Bear taken by our close family friend, Mike, who goes by @kaotical24.

A question Maks and I have been getting a lot lately is whether we’re going to put Bear into modeling. Maybe eventually. Right now, he’s still very young and he doesn’t like to sit or stay still for too long. And when I say too long, I mean anything past a few minutes. Also, I really want Bear to be a kid. He’s about to start school soon so I would love for him to just explore being around other kids his age. You’re only a toddler once and want his first memories to be when he was at school, all the friends he made, the field trips he took, and the cool artwork he brought home, not sitting in a hallway for an audition.

So, who knows what the future will bring? I feel whatever path Bear wants to choose is the one for his destiny.

Ooh, on the TTC tip…

Last year we were actively TTCing. This year, it’s on hold. Not an indefinite hold but just a small hold. We want to travel a bit and plus, I need to get back into shape. (Amazing how much in-shape I was when I was trying to get pregnant and when that stopped, I pretty much said, ‘fuck it, hand me that cheesecake.’)

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It wasn’t an easy decision but the last time I was truly pregnant, I had to stay put within a six-mile radius from my OB and MFM. Once you realize how wide six miles is and what you can’t do, it’s pretty depressing.

And honestly, I want to enjoy having one kid for now. I want to solely give 100% of my attention to Bear and now he’s at the age where he needs it. I’ll probably be pregnant at the end of this year but for now, I want to just have fun with my small family.

So that’s it! I’ll be back in a couple of days with hair, makeup, and book reviews!

I hope you’re doing wonderful and great! xoxoxoxo

 

 

 

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About That Time I Landed on a Panel…What?

So, great news! Big news!

Your girl is going to be at the Mixed Remixed Festival, speaking on a panel regarding  Parenting with Difference: Multiracial and Families of Transracial Adoption in Conversation. Isn’t that neat? I’m so looking forward to it!

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Yeah, I’m that excited!

If you’re in the L.A area around June 10-11, come join us at the Mixed Remixed Festival. I’ll be speaking on the 11th and Maks and Bear will be there as well!

If you’re able to, please donate to them! They’re a great cause and really good people. We went last year and we had a blast!  Link to their campaign is on the sidebar!

 

Mixed Kids Cope Different

(I’ll get back to using song titles as my blog posts in a short while, but the last few posts were exceptions…)

I’m Black. I have two Black parents. On my father’s side, I had a great-grandmother who was half-White and half-Indian. I know this because I met her at the tender age of five and my first thought was, ‘Who is this white lady?’. Over the years, I’ve had several people, namely American Indians tell me about my heritage due to my high cheekbones (I’ll take their word for it). I’ve never been one of those people who did ‘I’m a little bit of this or a little bit of that.’ I just am.

M, however, is a little bit of this and little bit of that. He’s Ukrainian, Polish, Serbian (I think?), and a few other things. He speaks three languages fluently, semi-conversational in Spanish, and knows a thing or two in German. Yeah. Me and my one language is looking kinda paltry. (Though I am learning Russian!)

Recently, we went to the mixedremixed festival here in L.A. It was so nice to see other interracial families and children. I attended a seminar on how to talk to your mixed-race children about their heritage and identity. One Black mother suggested that when it comes to race, to be head on and honest about it as often as possible.

During a time where racial tensions in the U.S. are at all-time high, and people are being slaughtered just for going to church, I have to admit, it’s pretty scary out there. I even told M. I was afraid of leaving my house because I feared what was going to happen. That’s a scary thought. No one should be afraid to leave their home.

Today, I watched a video and it shared some light on what my son possibly might go through when he gets older. You see, when I was growing up, I had my fair share of prejudice and racially-based questions – ‘I thought you lived in the North End?’ (a predominantly black area of Palm Springs); ‘Why don’t Black people’s hair grow fast?’, ‘I thought all Black people like watermelon.’ ‘Oh, she’s your Aunt? She’s White, though!’ I still get those questions in different forms.

Bear, when he gets older, is going have to deal with other questions. While there are more racially- and ethnically-mixed children nowadays, there will be some people who just won’t get it. I hope my son is patient enough to explain or worst case scenario, just ignore.