How Badly Do I Really Need A FB Page?

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It’s something I’ve been going back and forth for about a year now. Honestly, when I started this little blog about four years ago, it was just to document my pregnancy with Bear, struggling with my loss of Ethan, giving details to my cerclage, and highlighting life – both good and bad.

I opened up my personal IG to be public, created a YouTube channel (that I’m still ignoring but I promise I will update), and now I’m thinking…should I take this to the next level?

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Now, it’s not like I don’t like Facebook. It’s actually quite useful. I’m in contact with many friends and family and I keep up to date on people I like and care about (because I don’t care about people I don’t like).

So, seeing so many Mommy bloggers have Facebook pages, I wonder…should I do one as well?

I created one but that was about as far as my creativity went. I haven’t added any photos or linked it to anywhere. I guess a part of me is wondering if it’s really necessary. I’m still trying to figure out my overall purpose and honestly, I don’t have one.

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I like having fun with this. I love interacting and chatting with fellow mom bloggers and other influencers. I get political at times, but I’m silly for the most part.

So I don’t know…to my fellow mom bloggers, do you have a Facebook page? If so, how do you like it? If not, why did you decide against it?

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I end this post by highlighting the super-tight fade I received at The Truth LA barbershop from Noah Israel. Photography by bae, @caliwinter.

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Why You Need a Vacation from Social Media

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Facebook.

Twitter.

Tumblr.

Snapchat.

Instagram.

Peach.

Periscope.

And le sigh…so many more I really don’t care about. But you get the idea.

There is so many social media apps, hubs, networks…it’s really almost too much for people to care about.

I’m a bit “old-school.” I remember when Myspace was the new hot sauce. I actually liked Myspace because I was able to customize my page, have music or other graphics on it, and people could leave me messages on my wall.

Then Facebook exploded and of course, everyone migrated there. It was great because you caught up with people you haven’t seen in a long while. Reconnected with friends and family. Mourned in their losses. Celebrated their triumphs. Got angry with them. Became elated with them. Gave a few a much-needed side-eye. Vented your frustrations with the threat of losing friends and family. And let’s face it…getting a certain number of ‘likes’, is pretty addicting. Facebook was everything.

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But then a funny thing happened…

I slowly stopped caring.

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So, I migrated to Twitter where I have two accounts, one for my pen name and one under blussianmommy (I barely tweet so follow me at your own bored risk). And again, it was the same scenario.

I found the same scenario repeat at Instagram (also known as IG).

I tried Snapchat but I really don’t care and honestly, I’m too boring for Snapchat.

Then someone recommended Peach to me and I’m like, what?

And that’s when I slowly began to realize…maybe I’m being overloaded with too much social media? 

You see, it’s easy to get obsessed with it. It’s instant and all you have to do is scroll down to see what you’ve missed. Oh, someone got married? Write congrats to them! Someone announced a pregnancy? Send another congratulations. Someone is having a bad day? Send them virtual hugs. Someone is looking great? Send them a smiley kiss. You want to spy on someone? It’s really easy to do if they have a public page.

Rinse. Wash. Repeat.

Then I began to realize…you know what? I really don’t care.

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Now, let me be clear. It’s not to say I don’t care about my friends and family. They’re everything to me and they’ve helped through some really tough times. But when you have 300+ friends on Facebook, an additional 400+ you’re following on IG, and a little over a thousand people you’re following (and following back ) on Twitter, well, it’s hard to authentically care about every single person.

Let me repeat that for the people in the back – authentically care. When’s the last time you actually struck up a conversation with someone on your social media? Like an actual ‘Say, how is everything going with your life now?’ type of conversation.

I’ve been taking extended hiatuses from Facebook and it’s helped my mental a lot. And I started doing the same with IG, not posting for days at a time. Instead of checking who posted what, I’ve been focused on my writing, on my long-overdue vision board, and most importantly, focusing on my family.

Another thing I discovered when I took a break from social media…I enjoyed life a lot more. Life as in IRL (in real life, for those who don’t understand the lingo).  I’ve focused on my goals, getting my home together, and furthermore, I’m happy with what I’ve accomplished and stopped comparing myself to what I don’t have.

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In closing, I’m not saying to give up social media completely. If it works for you, great. But sometimes, it’s okay to take a break from it and realize you have one life to live – yours – and not living vicariously through anyone else’s. Now, that’s worth more than any status or likes.

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