The one good thing about the Facebook memories feature is seeing all of the photos you posted from a while back. I came across this gem of me and the bae:
We were married for almost five months at this point. Kinda nuts to see how far we’ve come along. It’s also bittersweet to see where we were in terms of happiness before the heartache. I always say for those who’ve experienced losses, you always divide your life into a half: before the loss and after.
For those who wonder, I’m wearing a wig in the picture which, in hindsight, doesn’t make sense I’m wearing a hat on top of it. My naïveté was awesome.
Before I dive more into this topic, I need to disclose a few things. While I have a broad view of the world and what things that occur, I also have a narrow view of it at times (which I feel most people have). That being said, I have to share some things.
Last year, I think by accident really, I was introduced to the Mixed Remixed Festival. It’s a festival catered to the mixed-race experience and open to all (it’s also free). Maks and I went not only as an interracial couple but also being the parents of a biracial child. It was really cool to be there. We met other families and listened to panelists discussing their mixed-race experiences.
So, as I created content for the vlog and expanded this blog, I started to research more. It’s a community I really didn’t know how wide and diverse it really is. You see, I don’t really think of too many things in just black and white, left and right, up and down. There’s always grey, there’s always a circle, there’s always a curve.
Every interracial couple/family is different. We may have a few things in common but it’s our differences that really separate us. Many of our friends are in IR relationships and it’s crazy when we all get together because it looks like an ad for Benetton.
It is nice to see another IR couple and give a head-nod to them like, ‘Hey, we understand.’ In another blog post, I’ll share comments Maks and I have received over the years and believe me, it’s not the We Are the World/Kumbaya variety. If you’ve seen our vlogs, I also make it a point not to have ‘interracial’ in the title anywhere for the videos. I would rather you see us as an IR couple secondary to our respective careers and achievements.
Soon, I would love to feature other IR couples and families on here so if you’re interested, give me a shout at email@example.com. (If you’re in the LA area, that’s a huge bonus because maybe we can meet somewhere and chit-chat!)
We actually had a really good holiday over here. We celebrated both St. Nick’s (an Ukrainian holiday) and Christmas. For the first time, I’m going to start celebrating Kwanzaa.
Now before any of you give me the proverbial side eye, I need to explain. Growing up, my parents never celebrated Kwanzaa. In fact, they’d never mentioned it. I didn’t learn about it until I was in high school. Over the years, I didn’t celebrate it other than looking up the different meanings for the days and doing my own quiet reflection.
This year, it’s a bit different. While Bear is still relatively young and still don’t know a lot of things, I do want to incorporate Kwanzaa in our winter holidays celebrations. I hope when he gets older and has his own family, he’ll incorporate all of the holidays as well.
Here’s a small video of our St. Nick’s and Christmas Eve family time. I’ll have another video up this week!
I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas! xoxoxoxo
I’m going to start doing Throwback Thursdays again to play catch-up on this blog.
But anyhoo, here are some pics from our time at the Mixed Remixed Festival this year. I’m thinking about applying to be a panelist for next year’s festival.
I’m starting to get the hang of this whole vlog thing.
Anyhoo, I reviewed the Kinky Curly detangling cream. I actually use it for my hair and I really liked it so I tried it on Bo’s hair.
IMHO, I think the Cantu actually worked better. Not sure because it’s actually designed for kids as oppose to Kinky Curly which is designed for everyone.
I also purposely kept this video instead of redoing another because I wanted to show everyone what a typical hair detangling time consists of between Bear and I. He was overly excited because he saw the camera and this kid loves seeing himself on camera. I wouldn’t be surprised if he becomes an actor one day, lol.